Just like my pregnancy with my daughter I thought a lot about my mom, and how much I missed her. She's been gone for over three years and even though it's supposed to get easier every day some days it's like it just happened all over again and some times I can snap out of it in a day or two or sometimes it take me weeks to function with day to day things with out randomly crying!
The reason I start thinking of my mom so much at this time is because I have so many friends that have just had new babies or are about too, and they are making arrangements for their moms to come help them out with the new baby and old children if they have older ones! I remember my mom making these plans with my sister in law that lives out of town, and she made her plans according to when my sil's mom was going to be there that way they had enough help getting dinners and taking care of the house and helping with older child and of corse just cooing over the new baby.
With my daughter we had really no help what so ever, which scares me even more this go around because I have her to worry about. My daughter was born in September and my sister was getting her kids back in the swing of school and she works a full time job and could not take off to help us. And well they did mess up my epidural and the extra help was so very needed, she did all she could and would come over after work but still it was just so VERY hard. I had a very fast and easy delivery with my daughter and I hope this one is the same, but at the same time while I'm up there supposed to be focusing on the birth of our new son I'm going to be worried to death about my daughter, I have friends that have already said they would take care of her for me, until we could bring her up to the hospital but I really hate to put them out because I have no idea what time we would have to be at the hospital ( Unless I got into labor naturally I will be induced). This is were having my mom here to help would be fantastic! because she could just come over to our house and let her wake up and carry on with her normally day until it's time to bring her up there to meet her brother. Of corse I miss my mom for more reason than just to help me out but this is one time very mother or soon to be mother wants her mom! I'm sure I'll figure something out that will work for us before this happens but it's on my mind every day and well I cry over a lot and pray about it a million times a day! Okay well now that I've got that all out... I guess I can throw a random photo in here!
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Oh Misty, saying "I'm sorry" doesn't seem like near enough. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, but I know how special your mom was to you and how hard it is not to have her around for this....and so many other things.
I was a nervous wreck when I went in to have the second baby because I didn't want to leave C. He was in capable hands though (friends and family) and did great! Your Little Miss will be well taken care of too I am sure...just antsy to see her brother!
We are only a few blocks away you know...and the boys would love to play with L anytime. Let me know what you need...I would love to help. Even though my mom was around...she was busy too and it was a blessing to have friends and other family to step in when she got tired. SO really...don't hesitate to call!
Ashley
I can so relate- last week I stood in a car lot and cried because I was having to pick out a car without my dad's advice. Silly, I know, but it was just a brutal reminder that he won't be there for all the "dad" things.
Though I know it doesn't make missing your mom any easier, we are here to help in any way we can.
Hugs! I know you miss your mom every day, sometimes every moment of the day. I am sad for you, L, little J, and your mom that you miss out on sharing such precious times with each other.
L is welcome at our home any hour of the day for any length of time. We would be so excited to be woken up in the middle of the night if it meant J was on his way! :) We are only a short drive or a phone call away when you need help.
You are going to do great with 2 kids! L is going to be a great big sister and you will be much more relaxed and confident as a mama the second time around. And I plan on oooing and awwing and cuddling that little baby like crazy! :)
Ok, there is nothing I can say to make the sadness go away, but I do want you to know that I am ALWAYS here, even in the middle of the night if the new one is coming! N would LOVE to have L over for the day, or night, or days, whatev. And you know I have a car big enough to bring your L and both of my boys to meet little J. And I mean it, call any time!
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